Domestic abuse can often involve physical violence, where an abuser harms someone leaving visible marks and scars. But abuse can also be physiological – something that is referred to as coercive and controlling behaviour. This type of abuse leaves no marks or scars but can cause victims to lose their freedom and experience fear on a daily basis.
Sometimes, abuse within a relationship may start with controlling behaviour and then later become physical.
What types of behaviour are associated with coercion or control?
The types of behaviour associated with coercion or control might include:
isolating a person from their friends, family, colleagues
monitoring their time, such as stalking that person’s movements or being controlling about how they spend their time
monitoring their social media accounts or using spyware to track their mobile phone and other devices
restricting access to communication, such as changing passwords on tablets and online accounts
making unreasonable demands
taking control over aspects of their everyday life, such as where they can go, who they can see, what to wear and when they can sleep
depriving them access to support services, such as specialist support or medical services
repeatedly putting them down, telling them they are worthless
taking control of that person’s own finances, giving them an ‘allowance’ or forcing them to take on debts
taking food away or limiting their food, this can be connected to saying they are overweight
making threats or using intimidation if your behaviour, or choices, isn’t to their liking, being threatened or intimidated into changing it. This can include sex too
criminal damage to property, such as destruction of household goods and valuable personal items, including texts and emails
preventing them from having access to transport or from working.
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